This is one piece of advice that often gets misinterpreted, hence the “mostly” in the title. When “bad guy” is synonymous with an asshole, jerk, and other related words, it is easy to say that most good girls are not attracted to them.
Treating other people with respect, debating politely and intelligently, and arguing in healthy ways are all things that are often profoundly appreciated by most women around the world.
In phone dating, speaking with respect and treating the other person as an equal, go a long way. This is true and in-person dating as well. By being the best person that you can be, you can inspire other people. Most people, when given a chance to describe what they are most attracted to, put intelligence, compassion, a sense of humor, and respect on the list.
Sometimes, when people use the term “bad guy,” they are referring to someone that marches to the beat of their own drum. Someone that walks their own path and is not afraid to buck some of the social norms that sometimes keep people more comfortable, with a solid direction in life. Being yourself, and allowing yourself to be an individual, can be massively attractive.
More than anything, it is important not to change yourself individually to win over a person that you want to date. Any time a person changes, it should be primarily for themselves.
Being an asshole specifically to find love is counterintuitive. Not only that, but you could find yourself accidentally hurting the very person you are interested in if you play these types of games. Confidence, respect, and people who are not pushovers, these are the types of people that most who are looking to date want.
By being the person you are, rather than somebody else, you are more likely to find the love that you are looking for, whether it be via phone dating or anywhere else.