A successful single can boost an artist’s career. It can help them gain more popularity and earn more money. It can also lead to more opportunities, such as being able to tour and play at larger venues.
Fortunately, there are ways to make the most of your time as a single. Here are some tips from the experts at Fisher Gilmore Matchmaking.
1. They Define What They Want
While it may not be a list hanging on the fridge, successfully singles are clear about what they’re looking for in a partner. They know what they won’t compromise on and have the strength to stand by their decisions.
Men, for example, might prefer to stay single in order to reap evolutionary benefits from casual sex and to maximize their ability to inseminate multiple women. They might also want to refine their flirting skills and avoid the commitments that a relationship would require, as shown by the “Freedom” domain in our study.
On the other hand, it might be better to marry a woman who will share your life with you than someone who won’t (think divorce, high legal bills and alimony). But you can’t just decide that one day, you will find a partner who has everything you want.
2. They Don’t Compromise
Whether you’re a single or in a relationship, every day you have to compromise. You may have to roll the toothpaste tube just right, or you might have to deal with someone who refuses to wear underwear that isn’t a white boxer brief. But, as Bruneau says, “Successfully singles know what their deal-breakers are before they enter the dating world.” They define the aspects of a relationship that matter most to them and won’t compromise on those things—even if it means staying single.
This could mean defining traits that are important to you, such as communication or honesty, and never going back on those.
3. They Make Time For Self-Care
When you’re single, you have the freedom to prioritize yourself and what makes you happy. This could be scheduling a pedicure, taking a weekend yoga class, or committing to a new hobby.
Prioritizing your physical, emotional, and mental health will prevent burnout and make you a more well-rounded person in any relationship. Plus, it’s a lot more fun when you can do something just for yourself!
It also helps to build up your self-esteem. Take a few moments each day to affirm your positive qualities and what you have to offer the world. That will give you the confidence to know that your value and worth are not dependent on someone else’s opinion or approval. That’s a powerful feeling, no matter what stage of life you’re in.
4. They Don’t Forget About Others
There are a lot of reasons people are single, including life circumstances, time spent on work or taking care of loved ones. However, being single doesn’t automatically mean a person is sad or lonely.
Whether you are in a relationship or not, you deserve to be happy. Being happy single doesn’t have to be challenging, but it does require a mindset shift.
Bruneau says one of the best things about being single is deciding your own schedule. You don’t have to wait for your night out to be approved by your significant other, and you can skip the drama of scheduling conflicts with friends. This alone makes being single one of the most liberating parts of life!
5. They Don’t Let Fear Hold Them Back
Kelli Fisher and Tana Gilmore have both experienced their share of success in the corporate world, but they didn’t let that stop them from finding love. Six years ago, the two founded Fisher Gilmore Matchmaking, a service that helps successful professionals connect with and find love. Their hard work and experience has resulted in many romantic connections, engagements, marriages, new homes, and fun couples vacations for their clients.
**Please note that I know several growing singles ministries that are female-led, and I believe this is a good thing! However, all ministries need to be balanced with men leaders/co-leaders in order to grow.
